Whatever stage you’re at with your relationship, it may be difficult to tell someone how you feel, particularly if the way you’re feeling is hot. Although technology has made it much easier for two individuals to communicate but sexting can be uncomfortable if it’s not something you’re accustomed to. It requires some planning and lots of communication to be able to have sexual relations. As we’re experiencing a pandemic, couples are finding themselves in , and those who are facing a new challenge (like the question, do you actually have physical dates with each other?). If sexting is something that you’re thinking about, how do you start?
How do you start Sexting?
The short answer is: Consent. Consent. It is extremely important that the person on the other of your message is willing to communicate with you. It’s a continuous process of communication. Society has programmed people to believe that if a woman sends you a shocking naked image of herself, their partners are supposed to be happy (and that uninvited dick picks are the only enemies) But consent is a two-way process.
Also, a awareness could help both of you avoid an awkward situation. What is the outcome if you send someone a nasty text while they are showing their hilariousa phone video, “di ban”? You’d be putting that person in a tight spot and you didn’t consent to having that person see whatever it is you just sent. Sexting in casual conversation is not a good idea if you have not had a conversation about it before. Once you’ve reached an agreement on terms, you can inform your partner by saying something that is semi-safe such as “Bored , ako.” What would you say to me if we were together right now?”
Are you unsure how to proceed? Here are some other options to attempt Sexting:
Imagine physical. The whole reason that you’re sexting currently is that you can’t be physically with each other and are trying to recreate the experience. So something along the lines of “I’m somewhat cold this moment. I’d love to have you here to keep me warm,” or “Remember when we got frisky on our the last movie date in? I can’t wait to do that again.”
Discuss your fantasies. It’s really as simple as asking them to tell you what your secret sexual fantasies are. This is a great method to let your partner know you are open to looking into your partner’s inner muse.
Rely on pop-culture. This one’s for those who are truly mahiyain and you can’t bring yourself to talk about what you want (yet): You can refer to a hot scene in a show or film. You probably have at least one scene that you can recall in your head. Like, “Do you remember that episode you watched …?” Or would you like to revisit it with your family? LOL You’ll be able to see where you are heading with this.
Or you know you can ask for a pic. “Send me a image of yourself right now.” If you’ve already signed up, the urgency that comes with needing to “see” someone right away could be a major turn-on. Now the problem is: If you have never sent or taken photos of yourself What can you do to get it to be perfect?
How can you snap a photo of a thirst trap?
If, and only if you’re comfortable taking an intimate photo and then sending it to someone, it really boils down on the lighting and angle. I don’t know about you but I usually don’t like receiving overexposed photos of someone’s sexuality taking up three-fourths of the frame. This is a miss opportunity. By now, you probably already know your angles . dependent on the amount you’d like to show in your photo it is possible to go with the ever-dependable natural light, or play with shadows to tease your partner.
An important reminder:
Technology isn’t perfect, however it has its drawbacks. Many people lose their phones, and accounts get hacked. Many have had their accounts hacked and some of the perpetrators were trusted people. Think about these scenarios as you discuss with your partner about the boundaries for sexting you want to set. These issues could impact the kind of photos you’re at ease sharing and taking. It’s all about collaborating to make an informed decision.
