Whateverstage you’re atwith your relationship, it may be difficult to tell someonehow you feel,particularly if the wayyou’re feeling is hot.Although technology has made it much easier for two individuals to communicate but sexting can be uncomfortableif it’s not something you’reaccustomed to.It requires some planning and lots of communicationto be able to havesexual relations.As we’reexperiencing a pandemic, couples are finding themselvesin , and those who arefacing a newchallenge (like the question, do you actuallyhave physical dates with each other?).If sexting is something thatyou’re thinking about, how do you start?
How do you startSexting?
The short answer is: Consent. Consent. It is extremely important that the person on the otherof your message is willing to communicate with you.It’s a continuous process of communication.Society has programmed people to believe that ifa woman sends you a shocking nakedimage of herself, their partnersare supposed to be happy (and that uninvited dick picks are the only enemies) But consent is a two-way process.
Also, aawareness couldhelp both of you avoidan awkward situation.What is the outcome if you send someone a nasty text whilethey are showing their hilariousa phone video,“di ban”?You’d be putting that person in a tight spot and you didn’t consent to having that person seewhatever it is you just sent.Sexting in casual conversation is not a good ideaif you havenot had a conversation about it before.Once you’ve reached an agreement on terms, you caninform your partner by saying something that is semi-safesuch as “Bored , ako.”What would you say to me if we were togetherright now?”
Are you unsurehow to proceed?Here are some other options to attemptSexting:
Imaginephysical. The whole reason that you’re sextingcurrently is thatyou can’t be physicallywith each other and are trying to recreate theexperience.So something along the lines of “I’m somewhat coldthis moment.I’d love to have youhere to keep me warm,” or “Remember when we got friskyon ourthe last movie datein?I can’t wait to dothat again.”
Discuss your fantasies. It’s really as simple as asking them to tell you whatyour secret sexual fantasies are.This is a greatmethod to let your partnerknow you are open tolooking into your partner’s inner muse.
Rely on pop-culture. This one’s for those who are trulymahiyain and you can’t bring yourself to talk about what you want (yet): You canrefer to a hot scenein a show orfilm.You probably have at least one scenethat you can recall in your head.Like, “Do you remember that episode you watched …?”Or would you like to revisit it with your family?LOL You’ll be able to see where you areheading with this.
Or you know you canask for a pic. “Send me a image of yourselfright now.”If you’ve already signed up, the urgency that comeswith needing to “see” someone right awaycould be a majorturn-on.Now theproblem is: If youhave never sent or takenphotos of yourself What can you do toget it to be perfect?
How can yousnap a photo of a thirst trap?
If, and only if you’re comfortable takingan intimate photo and then sending it to someone,it really boils down on the lighting and angle.I don’t know about you but I usually don’t likereceiving overexposed photos of someone’ssexuality taking up three-fourths of the frame.This is a missopportunity.By now, you probablyalready know your angles .dependent on the amountyou’d like to show in your photo it is possible to go with the ever-dependable natural light, or play with shadows to tease your partner.
An important reminder:
Technology isn’t perfect, howeverit has its drawbacks.Many people lose their phones, and accounts get hacked.Many have had their accounts hacked andsome of the perpetrators were trusted people.Think about these scenariosas you discuss with your partner about the boundaries for sextingyou want to set.These issues could impact the kind of photosyou’reat ease sharing and taking.It’s all about collaborating to make an informed decision.